The Cereal Boss Babe - A Scoop of Jessica's Life
Pursuing both a full-time job in the banking and finance industry, Jessica also spends her time working on digital marketing projects. Being able to juggle between both scopes may be daunting to some, but it is definitely a childhood dream come true for the now 24 year old. Jessica’s main interest is in social media, and she can spend hours on different social media sites, exploring the different trends and thinking of new strategies.
We had the chance to speak to Jessica to find out what keeps her going, as she shares more about her past experiences and how she emerged stronger.
Q: What inspires you?
A: My dreams and my circle of close friends.
There are two quotes I firmly believe in - “you are a product of who and what you surround yourself with” and that “energies are contagious”. I think it is really important that you choose the right people in your life because your environment will shape you. I’m glad that my circle of close friends are people who constantly inspires me to reach beyond myself, always encouraging me to strive to create a better life for myself.
Q: If you could turn back time, what is one thing you’ll change in your life?
A: If I could turn back time… there is nothing I would want to change. I am thankful for all the experiences I’ve had - both the good and the bad, as they taught me important lessons that brought me to where I am today. I also believe that there are many more challenges and opportunities waiting for me, and I should always look forward.
“Don’t ever spend time regretting your actions”, this is something a close friend told me that I always bear in mind. Whether it is a good or a bad choice, we are responsible for making that choice, and so we will have to live with the consequences whether we like it or not. I feel that whenever we’ve made a wrong choice, it is on us to pick ourselves up, learn from the experience, and keep moving forward.
Q: Tell us more about how you coped with a hurtful experience and emerged stronger.
A: I suffered from anorexia nervosa.
There are a few triggers that led to my eating disorder. When other aspects of my life were out of control and too emotionally overwhelming, I focused all my energy on food and my body image as a form of distraction. Diet restriction also became one of my methods of stress management and a false sense of control.
I have high expectations of myself and tend to be a perfectionist. I am often driven by the avoidance of failure and personal gratification. So, nothing is ever good to me, it either has to be perfect or a failure. This led to feelings of inferiority, and I always felt like I’m not good enough. I am also often disappointed with myself and I find it hard to forgive my mistakes. I just do not wish for anyone to expose my flaws, even myself.
The wake up call came when I realised I was becoming dangerously thin and anorexia is a fatal disease. I was feeling so tired and I told myself that I cannot let this continue. I can’t just waste my youth and time like this and I need to overcome this mental illness. There are so many things in life which I have not done and have yet to accomplish. There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy too and I shouldn’t be kept in that toxic space that I’ve grown to be so comfortable with. I needed to take responsibility for my own life journey.
In the past, I would feel ashamed and was very afraid that people would know about my condition, and it took me a lot of courage to share my story because I hope to help and inspire more people. It has taught me a lot of things, and I discovered more about myself.
In life, there are many challenges and obstacles. There are ups and downs, which everyone can’t escape from. We need to be brave and put up a strong front to face reality. It is then that you will start to realise that you can actually overcome many things. It’s your thoughts that controls you.
You are not alone, and you need to accept who you are, embrace every flaw, be comfortable with how you’re perfectly imperfect. I became a lot happier when I accepted that no one in this world is perfect, and started to be less hard on myself. At the end of the day, you need to know your own worth and you have to find what truly makes you happy.
Q: Which lady in your life inspires you the most?
A: There are many ladies around me who inspires me in many different ways. But I would give special mention to Kadence, who has inspired me the most. She is someone I always look up to; a very close friend of mine, a sister, a mentor and a good role model not just to me, but to many people who knows her as well.
She has given me the greatest support and encouragement, especially during my lowest moments in life, and will always share her stories, knowledge and experiences selflessly. She teaches me many life lessons, and made me realise my value and worth. She inspired me to be a woman who takes charge of her own life and creates her own happiness.
Thank you, Jessica, for sharing your story with us! We hope this story reminds all of us to keep pushing on for what we truly believe in, and to always remember that we are enough. No matter the challenges you’re facing, and no matter how many times you fall, keep picking yourself and keep going!
In the meantime, if you’d like to find out more about Jessica’s life, you can follow her on her social media!
Images above by Jessica.
“When we share our stories, what it does is, it opens up our hearts for other people to share their stories, and it gives us the sense that we are not alone on this journey.” This quote by Janine Shepherd encapsulates the heart behind the Cereal Boss Babe. We hope the stories shared here will serve as a source of inspiration for women from all walks of life, and a reminder that our lives are not that different after all.
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